Has anybody noticed that I haven’t been posting much of late? Anybody? Anybody?
Oh, well! (Or as my friend Charlie B. used to say – “Good grief!”)
One reason for this silence is that not too many folks notice even when I do write, so what’s the difference?
Much has to do with the fact that the current headlines far overshadow my subject matter. Most of us are focused on the multi-front war and the hostages and the potential deals and ceasefires. I have nothing to contribute to this subject.
The other burning issues are the Israeli domestic right-to-left politics (or, in English, it’s the left-to-right politics), the coalition crisis and the draft issue. Again, I don’t have anything of substance to contribute. I would like to see some viable draft law that recognizes the primacy of Torah learning just like most of us. And I would also like to see that shefa macher in the blonde sheitel be removed from the office she was never elected to in the first place.
Truth be told, I have two Yeshiva boys of draft age, one married and one single. So, I have skin in the game, but still, nothing innovative to write.
I like to be machadesh (innovate), to write thought-provoking (or just plain provoking) things that stand out and to point out things that nobody else seems to notice. But these high profile current events subjects are over-represented, and I have nothing to add that will provoke much thinking. The subjects that I want to cover, such as how to handle a Din Torah (Project Emesh), are so far from center stage right now that there is no interest. So, why write about it?
But this past week, salvation!
Finally, there is something earth-shattering in the news that is overshadowing all these boring topics like wars and coalition crises and is taking a dominant role at center stage. It is something to bring me out of semi-retirement.
The Coldplay Concert Scandal.
Nothing is making headlines like this event. All the news analysts and gossip column analysts and comedians and influencers are showing the short clip and talking about it.
This has even caught the attention of some frum Jewish YouTube influencers. These include Ben Shapiro, Rabbi Pinchas Taylor, Rabbi Yisroel Goldstein and an article on Aish.com written by Itamar Frankenthal. Most of them, particularly Rabbis Goldstein and Taylor are discussing what we should learn from this debacle and focus on the idea of עין רואה ואוזן שומעת וכל מעשיך בספר נכתבים. We are constantly being watched. All of us. I highly recommend watching these those two clips.
The interesting thing is the titles of these two clips. The one presented by Rabbi Goldstein is titled:
Rabbi Notices Something STRANGE About CEO’s Reaction To Getting Caught Cheating!
The one presented by Rabbi Taylor is titled:
Rabbi Notices Something UNUSUAL About The CEO Affair Saga NO ONE Else Noticed
Everybody is noticing things that others don't. But, with all due respect, I don’t think there was anything really strange about the CEO’s reaction and I don’t think nobody else noticed what Rabbi Taylor noticed. Rabbi Goldstein certainly did. But I did notice something that nobody else noticed. And that is the date.
When exactly was this concert in Boston?
Well, it happened on Wednesday night, July 16, 2025. But we are all Jewish, so in our language it happened on אור ליום חמישי לפרשת פנחס, כ"א תמוז, תשפ"ה – Fifth night of the portion of Pinchas, 21 Tamuz, 5785.
Come again? Which Torah portion?
Pinchas. Or, more accurately, between Parshat Balak and Parshat Pinchas.
And what, precisely, happened on this Wednesday eve between Parshat Balak and Parshat Pinchas?
Yes, indeed. Andy (Zimri) Byron, the Nasi Beis Av of Astronomer (Ovdei Kochavim u’Mazalos), Inc., was caught canoodling in public with Kristin (Kazbi) Cabot-Tzur, Chief of People for all the Midianites and other human resources in Astronomer.
And who caught them?
Chris (Pinchas) Martin. And they were immediately skewered and roasted by this zealous kanaoi.
And now, Zimri Byron and Kazbi Cabot will be condemned to eternal damnation – or, at least, Internetal damnation – while Pinchas Martin (who I had never heard of) is catapulted into everlasting fame.
Timing is everything.
Do you think this timing is a coincidence? I don’t. Almost always, there is a noticeable connection between a major event to the weekly parsha. And, as minor as this incident is, it is playing like a major event.
So, as usual, this non-coincidence is telling us that none of this is a coincidence. The camera didn’t have to spot this couple, but it did. And the couple could have had the presence of mind to “play it cool”. I believe that a couple caught and broadcast by the “Kiss-cam” is supposed to kiss. If they would have just done that, probably nobody would have been the wiser. But, caught off guard, they panicked and played guilty.
And it happened now, in Parshat Pinchas, so that we should notice this “coincidence”. As if the story of Zimri and Kazbi came alive. It is to teach us that if you act like Zimri and Kazbi in public, you never know who may want to cold-play Pinchas.
And you can lose everything like these two did. The lesson of adultery is that for a fleeting moment of “olam habah”, one can lose all of their “olam hazeh”. Certainly, this is one of the main lessons of this event. Adultery destroys lives, and can do so very suddenly.
Another concept that came “alive” is the quaint concept that after 120 years we will need to make a din v’cheshbon and face up to it. When I was a kid, my mentors depicted it as that one’s whole life will be displayed on a screen like a movie in a theater and the seats will be filled with souls of people – friends and foes – who will be shown your every deed and thought.
That was scary enough. But, somehow, when you think of it as a big bright Jumbotron which may actually have multiple screens in an immense stadium and a malach with a headset microphone strolling through the center expressing cynical, yet truthful, commentary, it brings the concept to a whole new level.
And the next lesson is that many of us don’t need to wait until 120 years to get exposed.
רבי יוחנן בן ברוקה אומר: כל המחלל שם שמים בסתר - נפרעין ממנו בגלוי. אחד שוגג, ואחד מזיד בחילול השם.
Says Rabi Yochanan ben Baroka: One who commits a Chillul Hashem in private gets retribution in public.
Even though the concept of Kiddush Hashem and Chillul Hashem is reserved for us Jewish folks, the lesson is generic. When one is “naughty” in private, he gets his come-uppance in public. This applies to non-Jews as much as to us. Maybe even more so.
And we learn that “public" does not have to mean merely in front of a large crowd or even in the presence of a 65,000 seat stadium. It can mean in front of the whole entire [online] world!
This entire episode is meant to show us G-d’s power –
לידע להודיע ולהודע שהוא אל, הוא היוצר, הוא הבורא, הוא המבין, הוא הדיין, הוא עד, הוא בעל דין, והוא עתיד לדון.
To know, to inform and to be informed that He is the Almighty, He is the the Designer, He is the Creator, He is the Expert, He is the Judge, He is the Witness, He is the Litigant, He is destined to Judge.
So it is clearly the Hand of G-d that has turned this non-event into a worldwide front page news item. This indicates to us that G-d wants us to notice it and to learn the associated lessons, and make some adjustments.
Of course, we don’t all need to be taught these lessons. There are some of us, particularly those who do not go “online”, who already know all of this and don’t need to be reminded. But for the rest of us hedyotot (idiots), this event was a G-dsend.
It is for this reason that I must respectfully disagree with a good friend of mine (actually a relative through marriage), Rav Itamar Frankenthal, in his article on Aish.com.
The premise of his article is that human dignity is sacrosanct for all humans. I am in full agreement with this. He also maintains that the Internet has become today’s Roman Colosseum wherein people are destroyed for the entertainment of others. Not only do I fully agree with this myself, but I have written as such in many previous posts.
But none of these are chiddushim. The chiddush that he wants to make is that merely by following a news item, a person is automatically part of the lynch mob. Just clicking on a headline is like adding “oxygen” to a fire and anyone who follows the item is “an arsonist”.
I think he is being way too extreme. I also think that when one wants to mussar the masses in this manner, it is best to choose worthy test models from whom to make his case.
If I understand him correctly, he is saying that anyone who passes a burning building and stops to look at it is an arsonist. Just by looking at it, he has added another can of gasoline. Of course, it’s a good idea to call the fire department if nobody did so already, but the best thing is just to ignore it and move on. Otherwise, you are making it worse.
It's hard to agree with this. It's hard to call one an arsonist if the building is already on fire and it's hard to call someone a murderer if the victim is already dead. the Torah says: שלם ישלם המעביר את הבערה - pay, he must pay, he who ignited the fire.
Who pays?
The one who ignited the fire. And if one burns his own building, there is no other mazik but him to do the paying.
Normally, when a building is burning there is a crowd standing around watching what is going on. Should they all be arrested?
Yet, watching a building burn that is not yours can be a catalyst to make some overdue precautions. An onlooker may be inspired to install smoke detectors in his house or to recheck his electric wiring. He may be inspired to upgrade his insurance or to settle his affairs with the Italian “bill collectors" who have hearts of stone and knuckles of brass. He may have been aware all the time that he needs to implement these measures but neglected them, and this event was necessary to bring home the urgency and shock him out of complacency.
This message was conveyed by both the Chabad influencers, Rabbis Goldstein and Taylor, and it is known as the Besht’s hashgacha pratis. Even ultra-liberal Rahm Emanuel told us, “Never let a crisis go to waste”. It doesn’t mean that anybody needs to create the crisis, nor to exacerbate it. But one can, and should, learn from it and make the most of it.
Of course, a compassionate person must sympathize with another’s misfortune and help them overcome their loss. But I don’t think this applies to when a person sets their own house on fire which is what “Zimri” and “Kazbi” did.
Now, if your intent on clicking on a news item is to join the lynch mob, which seems to be the case of Rav Itamar's second example, he is absolutely correct. But, again, it’s no chiddush to preach to fellow Jews not to be part of the lynch mob. On this note, his reference to Tamar as not wanting to shame Yehuda was pertinent to the discussion, but once again, it’s old news.
Yet, it indeed teaches us that there needs to be a balance between observing another’s misfortune for what it can teach us and overdoing it. And this may be what he really means. But this lesson is not taught from Yehuda and Tamar but rather by the Torah law that all people who are executed in Beis Din by stoning should be hung in public. This law is what immediately follows the case of the Ben Sorer – recalcitrant son – which concludes with an order of:
ובערת הרע מקרבך וכל ישראל ישמעו ויראו.
And you must destroy the evil from your midst and all of Israel shall hear it and see it.
HKBH wants all of the Jews (apparently, even the pious chareidi ones) to witness what happens to one who misbehaves and ignores warnings from Beis Din. This is the most effective way to destroy the evil from our midst.
Then the Torah continues that anyone who is put to death [by stoning] should have their corpse hung up for display. No doubt, this is a tremendous disgrace for the deceased sinner, but HKBH orders it for the good of the nation. Nevertheless, this display is very short lived. The body must be taken down by sundown. Any indignity beyond what is needed to accomplish the goal is forbidden.
Zimri and Kazbi acted in public and brought on a deadly plague. The only way to stop the plague was to kill them in public so that everyone can be an eyewitness to the type of behavior that HKBH despises.
Nothing does the trick like seeing it all up in lights on the big Jumbotron screen.
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