Reb Chaim Yechiel Rotman, HY"D |
About three months ago, I wrote a review on a new book titled A Boy Named 68818 by Mr. Israel Starck. Mr. Starck was in Eretz Yisrael last August as the first copies rolled off the press. I visited him during his stay and was fortunate to receive a copy of the book from the first palette. (I am told now that the book has just recently arrived in the stores).
In the book, Mr.
Starck – Srulek, in his youth – relates that he had an older sister with severe
physical and mental handicaps who needed constant care. With the war raging
around them, his mother (hy”d) was at wits end how to continue caring for this
daughter, then around 18 years old. His mother sought out advice from Rav Moshe
Ziditchover of Munkacz and brought Srulek along for the consultation.
She explained to the
Rav the infirmities of her daughter – which he was already aware of - and
inquired as to how to care for her in view of all the travails that are being
imposed by the war. The tzadik simply told her to go back home and not to
worry, her daughter “will have a refuah sheleima”.
Little Srulek was
confused because he was old enough to understand that his sister’s condition
was not one that was reversible by contemporary medical standards. How can she possibly
have a refuah sheleima?
About three days
later, his sister did not wake up. And, with this, R. Yisrael learned that a “refuah
shleima” means deliverance from illness, pain and torment but it does not
always mean a return to full health in this world.
For just two weeks
shy of a full year we have been praying for a refuah sheleima for the most
seriously injured of the Har Nof Kedoshim – Chaim Rotman (hy”d) – Chaim Yechiel
ben Malka. The women of Har Nof have held weekly Tehillim groups over the past
year entreating for a refuah sheleima for Shalom Daniel (z”l) ben Baruch Yehuda
Ray who passed away last summer along with R’ Chaim Yechiel (hy”d). Until now,
the refuah sheleima had not come.
Last Thursday,
however, something special happened. Har Nof held its chapter of the
international Great Challah Bake. Hundreds of women (including my wife and one
daughter) gathered at the Minhal (Community Center) to participate. Two large
rooms were dedicated to the event, one for single girls and the other for married
women. There were long tables with rows of mixing bowls stocked with flour,
water, yeast and whatever else. The women split into groups of three for each
mixing bowl.
The event was
presided by Reb. Tamar Ansh, the renowned challah maven, and by Reb. Tzipporah
Heller. Reb. Ansh gave instructions to the attendees and did a ceremonial
hafrasha with a bracha. It was announced
that this “Challah bake” is being done l’zchus a refuah sheleima for R’ Chaim
Yechiel ben Malka. Mrs. Risa Rotman was then invited to do another “public”
hafrasha.
Before she actually
did the hafrasha, she made a few remarks. She mentioned that she is constantly
being given accolades for the strength of spirit that she has in weathering her
excruciating ordeal. In response to this she said that the inspiration for this
strength should be attributed to her husband who, as is evident, is a true “fighter”.
And then she continued that people are constantly commiserating with her over
the fact that her life is in limbo, between heaven and earth. She has no
husband and she’s not a widow. Children with no father but not orphans. A life
on hold. To this she responded that after hearing this so many times she
decided that this can’t be. One’s life is never on hold. If somebody’s circumstances
are precarious, this is the situation in which HKBH wants them to continue
moving along in life. So many people put off the changes they need to make
until after their husband gets better, after all the kids are married, after
the baby is born, after…after…after… We cannot live this way. We must continue
moving forward no matter what.
She then proceeded
with the hafrasha and the bracha to the sound of a resounding “amein” and the
event went on to other speakers (Reb. Heller). This was done for a zechus
refuah sheleima for R’ Chaim.
Less than 24 hours
later, as most of the participants were setting their fresh challos on the
Shabbos table and preparing to hear “Hamotzie”, R’ Chaim Yechiel ben Malka ZT"L (HY"D) was
granted a refuah sheleima.
I wrote a bit about
the massacre a year ago and I intimated that I am well acquainted with the “korbanos”
(hy”d). I knew them all but wouldn’t consider myself a “buddy” to those of the
original group. R’ Avrohom Goldberg ZT”L was about a decade older than me and R’
Aryeh Kapinsky ZT”L was about a decade younger than me. These were the
down-to-earth guys. R’ Moshe Twerski ZT”L was just a bit older and R’ Kalman
Levine ZT”L was about my age but these fellows were so “arein-getuhn” in Avodas
Hakodesh and I am not worthy of placing myself in the same league.
But R’ Chaim was
different. He was a friend. We are (were) exactly the same age, both born and
raised in out-of-town North American communities, immigrants to E”Y, working
class people with (bla”H) double digit kids, struggling to maintain jobs to
support large families of kids who are not as American as we are, while we try
to incorporate as much growth in Torah as we can. He was a malach in midos but
still a very Human person. As opposed to the others, he wasn’t a melech. He was
an eved. An “eved Hashem”.
I wrote one post
about the Har Nof massacre last November. I titled it Har Nof Massacre I.
Why the “I”?
I had originally
intended to write about 2 or 3 posts. One was to be about some of the nissim that
happened and another to be my characterization of the victims. I did not write
those two posts because so many others “beat me” to it, saying almost exactly
what I had planned. to write. Many others wrote
then that it is ominous that the four initial victims were totally outstanding in a
major area of Judaism:
- Rav Moshe Twerski ZT”L was a gadol in Harbatzas Torah.
- Rav Kalman Levine ZT”L was a gadol in Avodas Hashem.
- Rav Aryeh Kapinsky ZT”L was a gadol in Gemilus Chasadim.
- Rav Avraham Goldberg ZT”L was a gadol in Yiras Shamayim.
So I wanted to say
(I haven’t heard anybody else say it this way) that:
Rav Moshe Twerski
was the Kesser Torah - Rav Kalman HaLevy Levine was the Kesser Kahuna - R’ Aryeh
with his chassadim was the Kesser Malchus - and R’ Goldberg was the Kesser Shem
Tov that rides on all of them.
But now R’ Chaim ZT”L
joins this distinguished crowd. Where does he fit in?
R’ Chaim has no use
for a Kesser. He is not a melech. He is an eved Hashem. R’ Chaim was a Shulchan
Aruch Yid. He lived and breathed the Shulchan Aruch. From page one. Literally.
What do I mean?
I heard a story
about a Jew who was very meticulous about getting out of bed promptly and
rushing to get ready for his seder hayom. When asked why he was so strong in
this department he explained:
After 120 years I
will be brought before the Beis Din Shel Maala and I will be handed a Shulchan
Aruch. I will be asked if I complied with the rules of this code of law. I will
naturally answer: “Yes”. They will then say, “Okay, let’s check it out.” And
they will open it up starting at the first page to see if I was in compliance.
What does it say there? It says: “One must galvanize themselves as a lion to arise
for the service of his Creator…” Woe is to me if I can’t even make it past this
first section!
All of the maspidim
noted (not in these words) that R’ Chaim was the undisputed champion of the 100
yard dash. This is the approximate distance between 14 Agassi (his house) and 5
Agassi (the shul). 15 seconds or less. Nobody could do it faster. He was a
regular at the hashkama minyan and he was on time.
He took page one of
the Shulchan Aruch very seriously (halevai auf mir gedached…) and every page
after that. When it came to Rav Rubin’s Shlita Friday night and Shabbos
afternoon Halacha shiurim, he was mekayem הוי מתאבק בעפר
רגליהם ושותה בצמא את דבריהם.
He was just what a
Jew is supposed to be. To HKBH he was an eved. To Harav Rubin he was a talmid. To
his wife he was a husband and to his children a father.
And to me he was a
friend.
Refuah Sheleima….Chaver.
Yehi zichro baruch.
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